At Home Rewards & Consequences for School Behavior

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At Home Rewards & Consequences for School Behavior

“What color were you on today?”  That’s the question I ask my son every time he gets in the car after school. After I ask how his day was of course.  I always want to be sure he was on his best behavior and there isn’t anything we need to talk about.  Luckily he is usually a pretty well behaved child. But, there have been days where his behavior isn’t that great and it catches me off guard on how to respond. To solve this problem we came up with a chart of rewards & consequences related to his behavior at school.

Rainbow School Behavior Chart

My son’s school uses a rainbow behavior chart system. Purple=outstanding, Blue=good, Green=not as good, Red-yikes! The kids usually start out on blue. Based on behavior they move their clip up or down.

Most of the time B is on blue & purple. When he started coming home with some greens and even a yellow, I was caught off guard on what his consequences should be. Instead of just making something up on the spot I knew I needed to figure out some at home consequences to reinforce the importance of good behavior at school. I firmly believe students do so much better in school and in life when their parents are involved and hold them accountable.  Not crazy helicopter parent involved but a healthy interest in their child’s education, helping them with homework, checking their daily folder and reading together.

So after being caught off guard a couple of times, I sat B down and together we came up with a chart of rewards & consequences related to his behavior at school.  I even had everyone sign it to make it even more official 🙂

At Home Rewards & Consequences

Home rewards & consequences for school behavior


Because mom & dad like to sleep in on the weekends we’ve incentivized B with donuts on Sunday if he doesn’t wake us up Saturday or Sunday.  This incentive has worked rather well!  During the school year in order to earn donuts he also has to earn 5 🙂 .  Purples are worth two smiley faces.  That way if he has a rough day early in the week he still has a chance to make up for it. Hopefully, encouraging extra-good behavior.


No my kid doesn’t eat candy, ice cream and Snow Cones every day, close but not EVERY day.  The consequences build on each other and are very spelled out because B is a good negotiator:

  • Green = No Candy, Ice Cream, Snow Cones or Sweets of any kind
  • Yellow = No Sweets + No Video Games (Friday, Saturday or Sunday -the days he’s allowed to play video games normally)
  • Orange = No Sweets + No Video Games + No TV (night & morning)
  • Red = No Sweets + No Video Games + No TV + Spanking

These are the punishments we use.  They are spelled out and agreed to. I don’t have to try and come up with something on the fly.  The rewards & consequences we’ve come up with (sometimes) help him stop and think about his actions and behavior at school. It also reinforces that we, his parents, think it is important to follow school rules and obey his teacher so everyone can learn. I believe it is very important that teachers have the support of parents in the classroom and at home.

What rewards and consequences have you come up with for your kid’s school behavior?  Share in the comment section below.

4 thoughts on “At Home Rewards & Consequences for School Behavior”

  1. Your behavior monitoring is good, however; you may find yourself in a situation where the rewards lose their appeal. Plan to have a second set ready to use. You may be able to include free things to do in your community to reward good behavior. Here are some ideas: trip to the park, choose music station in the car, choose a favorite dinner item, etc.

  2. We use a similar system in my house, though the kids school doesn’t use the coloring syster for behavior. I really like how they don’t start out at the top. They start on neutral and can move up or down.

    We also have a system where I have all their chores up and if they do their chores without me having to ask, they get rewarded. It’s good responsibility training because it is completely within their power to get rewarded with more fun time. Great advice! Thanks for sharing!

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